edited for clarification by Eric: The original post is mistaken. Gary Renard does not say to make friends with our ego. This was a misunderstanding of Gary Renard talking about other spiritual paths that do say we should make friends with our ego.
I was watching some ACIM You Tube videos and I came across one of Gary Renard being interviewed and talking about the ego. He told the interviewer that we need to make friends with our ego. The interviewer seemed a bit confused about this and Gary went on to try and explain it.
I know that Gary is somewhat famous in the ACIM world from his book(s). But as I was listening to what he was saying, it didn’t seem to make sense for me about making friends with the ego. Maybe I don’t understand what ACIM says about the ego, but doesn’t it seem that if we try and make friends with the ego, then we are essentially making the ego (an illusion) real?
Besides seemingly trying to make the ego real with this, it doesn’t really seem to me like we’re trying to cultivate a true friendship anyway, but almost like we are trying to compromise with the ego. This seems to fall under “Forgiveness to destroy” in the Song of Prayer.
I happen to have a great example of what I’m trying to convey here. Don’t laugh at me too hard, LOL. I was just a kid.
When I was about 7 years old, my granddad gave me a ventriloquist dummy. Soon after the movie “Magic” with Anthony Hopkins came out about a ventriloquist dummy coming to life and killing people. I didn’t see the movie until a few years later, but the commercials themselves scared me since I had a dummy myself.
I never did like this dummy. As a matter of fact, it terrified me when I lived with my grandparents in Arkansas for a year. When I moved back to California, my granddad sent it to me. Why my granddad decided to send this dummy to me, I have no idea, but I didn’t want it at all. My mom said that it was a gift and I needed to keep it. So I wanted to keep it in the closet, but she said no. She kept chest full of her yarn in my room and so she said that I should put it on that chest. The chest though, was at 45 degree angle across from my bed.
Being a 7 year old kid and after seeing those commercials, this dummy terrified me. I hated it. If only I didn’t have this dummy would my life at the time been much more peaceful! In my childish mind, I thought that this dummy was going to come to life and kill me.
So every night, as I was going to bed. I would talk to it first.
I would say things like, “OK, I’m going to bed now. I hope that you have a good night. I hope that you sleep well and have good dreams and that you wake up tomorrow to have a great day.” I did this ritually.
Looking back on this, I seemed to have been doing two things. One I was trying to make friends with the dummy, in hopes that by doing so it wouldn’t kill me. I was essentially trying to find a compromise with this thing, in hopes that my life would be spared, but I was also doing something else. I was making something that was not real, real. How counter productive is that?
Instead of realizing that the dummy being alive wasn’t real. That the movie wasn’t real. That it was just a form of illusion. I was making the dummy real and then trying to compromise with it, by trying to become friends with it.
As the course says, it would be far better for me to put away such childish things and realize the truth, instead of trying to compromise with illusion.
What do you think? Should we try and make friends with our ego as Gary says or should we just overlook it completely and realize that it was just but an illusion of our True Selves? I’d love to hear someone else’s thoughts on this and what they think.