A Course in Miracles Lounge

Let Love teach you what You are.

Boy, I really got stuck in some dreaming a few times this weekend. It was related to some themes I’ve “believed” about my sisters and our relationship. I’ve had a story for years that a few of them think I’m weird, talk about me and I become the bad guy of the family because I don’t conform or see things the same way they do. I’ve blamed them and many times have felt justified and victimized because they do “do this.” I’ve progressed a lot with forgiving and being free from this but the remnants are still there on occasion. Since I’ve also experienced our oneness, that there is no separation, that these are just stories that don't mean anything, I know this comes up for me to continue practicing forgiveness, waking up from the dream and being that oneness.
There were times when I felt the story was real again. I noticed how compelling it was. I really didn’t want to give it up. I felt justified. I felt “right” and that the one sister in particular that pushed my buttons was “wrong.” I wasn’t willing to forgive or to invite in Holy Spirit. Meanwhile, it hurt and I was aware of the suffering. I felt trapped in it. Perfect example of the insanity of ego.

There was an in-and-out awareness hovering as well. I could see what I was doing but kept doing it anyway. I felt compassion for this human and, with awareness, kept hearing myself say: allow what is. Don’t try to change it or make yourself wrong for this. There is no problem with this. Don’t resist it. And, when I was resisting it, allow that to be OK too.

I went back to some of my past writings and some of what you guys have written. I wasn’t willing to call a friend. I was able to let go of the strong hold. I eventually felt and practiced forgiveness. I could feel lightening and liberations. Sometimes it lasted for hours. But, then, before I knew it, I was back in the grip of the story once again.

To drown some of my sorrow (one story is: I should know better than this after all the “spiritual” and healing work I’ve done and know about), I ended up impulsively going to the store, buying one of my comfort foods (Lays sour cream and onion chips), and binging for a bit in front of the tube. Wow, I haven’t done this for awhile!!! But . . . there it was. And to top that off, I woke up early Sunday morning sick to my stomach followed by eliminating much of the stuff I ate. I was sitting there on the toilet going “I’m so sorry I did this to you,” speaking to my body.

Luckily, I forgave myself once again. I felt compassion and acceptance for the stories I felt caught up in, for the avoidance and escape via eating. It just seems to be the way it is sometimes—even though I know and have the tools to stop it, I won’t practice the clearing but I’ll hold onto a story instead. I’m sure I’m not alone in this insanity. It helps a lot to be honest, write about and expose this.

Views: 47


You need to be a member of A Course in Miracles Lounge to add comments!

Join A Course in Miracles Lounge

Comment by patrice sauve on January 5, 2010 at 7:46am
You're welcome Ruby!! And thanks for your obvious compassion and ability to relate.Yes, though there is no order of difficulty in the illusion, it can seem like family situations are prime target. I know Ken wrote about "Parents and Children" but I wonder if someone in ACIM wrote about "Sibling" relations. This has "seemed" to be my biggest area for forgiveness after I really came to peace with my parents some time ago.

Anyway, love the quote of 135. Thx for flashing that by me for review.
Comment by Ruby on January 5, 2010 at 1:58am
Thank you Patrice for sharing this. I think we can all relate to your feelings and process in forgiveness.. I see you clearly observing yourself and your willingness. I go through this often.. I think family situations bring up emotions in me that I'm not always clear about. Yet, they are opportunities for healing and forgiveness not only for myself but for all involved. I can be the catalyst because I know I can call on the Holy Spirit. (I love the part in the Course that says it only takes one of us to call on Love, whoever is saner at the time, for Love to join with us;) I like to remember the passage from 135: "What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? Perhaps you have misunderstood His plan, for He would never offer pain to you. But your defences did not let you see His loving blessing shine in every step you ever took. While you made plans for death, He led you gently to eternal life." We can't do this Course wrong. My friend Jim Dunn has taught me to say to everything "How perfect.". "All things work together for good." Much Love, Ruby

ACIM Workbook Calendar








Featured Audio ContentACIM GatherACIM Teachers on Audio  Marianne Williamson Audio Ken Wapnick audioEckhart Tolle audioMarianne Williamson AudioD. Chopra and W. Dyer AudioKrishnamurti AudioLouise Hay AudioMeditation AudioMarianne Miracle ThoughtsACIM Study Group ResourcesACIM Urtext on ACIM Lounge


Deva Premal and Miten AudioChat, Music and Love


© 2018   Created by Ruby.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service